I‘ve had to wonder why is it so hard for people to love. Not fall in love, but just the craft of loving someone. It’s as simple as treating people with respect, honesty, and trying to always be upfront and to have no cruel intentions or harm for them. Listening to Adele, “Someone Like You,” I wonder how some of you don’t see the image that life has set straight in your face, yet you look around it searching for a reason NOT to be happy. Everyone is not out to use or abuse you. I do attract the  wounded at heart because I have a quite a few bruises myself. However, unlike those that hold on to the pain and anger. I chose to forget, forgive and move on. Pain will always be there if you stay there picking at the wound inflicted by someone you once trusted…So the next person that loves you and have to walk on egg shells not to trigger anger, or the things that upset you. Than you may want to look at yourself and question why are you pushing them away..Life is passing so many good men and women by because we hear words that someone cares for them or is thinking of them, and automatically the defense comes up. Slow down, take a breath and realize that not everyone that loves or care about you is there to cause drama or pain in your life. When did you stop believing that you are worthy of being someones soul mate, their blessing, or your better half? How did you even decide to give up on someone who may have prayed for you more than you do for yourself? When was you ever going to realize that they would give you their last, and when you need them, they always made it to you by any means necessary? How can your heart be so harden that you are willing to settle for something less than what you deserve? Having a wounded heart doesn’t require you to change the old “good guy/girl.” That can make you lose what blessing that is coming your way. ..If you haven’t already lost them. It doesn’t require you to be “mysterious or an ass” to the next person that comes in your life. It’s amazing that I have spoken to some physically wounded men and women that served in the service, and not one time did this infirmity make them vulnerable or untrusting, but STRONGER!!  No bitterness, not constantly blaming themselves or others for the horrible things they encountered..Not that it wasn’t a cause for their conditions, they just didn’t have HARDENED HEARTS!  

I’ll be the first to admit as a survivor of heart breaks over my thirty something years that pain comes and goes with things that trigger memories, however, I was not built  NO OTHER WAY BUT TO LOVE AND LOVE HARD! “To each his own” so many will say. But those that say those things are those that don’t have a clue what they believe or have nothing to say.  I say, once I’ve experienced love, whether momentarily or for years out, I seem to forget the bad and only remember the good things or what I’ve learned. What am I proposing? For every woman out there that felt betrayed, lied to, hurt, abused and raped of their confidence to GET YOUR POWER BACK! There is nothing out there that can amount up to those moments when you felt like love was Gods greatest gift, now you ar forgetting what it felt like! For the men out there that has been hurt, taken advantaged of, abused and pushed to face financial hardships out of revenge from any woman… GET BACK ON YOUR PATHS! It was something you have that God blessed each one of you with specifically. Why are you hardening your hearts to your possible queens or help mates? If she or he can’t love you through your infirmities, always trying to change you and not help YOU better yourself to make what you been desiring for years….

I won’t give advice, But I will advise you that if you don’t learn how to LOVE hard, Laugh often, and Forgive quickly, you will always settle for less and not enjoy this short period we have on this earth…Wounded hearts shouldn’t control your future  of your happiness of tomorrow…but give you verification to believe that in every SEASON there is a REASON…