(So I was asked by one of my clients to “be real, and not write so Politically correct,” so here goes…)

Let’s start with text messages. Oh how it seems so convenient right? Well, not all the time. A while back I dropped my cell and of course killed the mother board or something cause it went black! Well, I could still use my Bluetooth  so no harm there until I decide  whether to pay $149 or not..Back to the story..

The truth I’ve learned about people is that without texting their wants, needs or funky little rants they won’t actually call you. People would rather text you to ask for something, or you get no conversation from them at all. This goes for those who think they can break up, or make up with a simple text..COWARD or NAW?

Have you ever gotten tired of texting back and forth, and decide to call only for them not to answer? Hmmmm…my #1 petpeeve….What’s really going on?

Don’t think you get a pass by sending emails either! Pick up the phone..and communicate for Goodness sake! This used to be me to a certain extent, until I realized that the only thing that I missed truly from my phone was playing Candy Crush Soda. Anyone that I wanted or needed to talk to always received a call from me. However, unfortunately I didn’t have everyone’s number in my head to  let them know what was going on. But…that’s where social media came in. I used it for those instances, or to check in on my family that is far away from me.

Texting is cool, but sometimes we forget that rudeness is only a text away..pick up the phone and stop being the cowardly lion…IJS..

#checkmate

 

Sometimes all we can do is look back bewildered at the time that we allowed to pass. When we become so overwhelmed and consumed, the excuses we use why we lost contact, why we never call are never ending. Again, we are wasting time making them.

It’s almost too easy to sit quietly and reminisce about some of the good old days, yet we are too busy to make new memories with the people we held the good ones with! I was quite guilty of this at times, and now I practice living life to enjoy every moment I can laughing and enjoying small wonders that I often missed when I was busy.

Every second that passes and someone or something comes to your mind, I challenge you to call them up or do that task without procrastination.  As we have all made a wish where we can have just take one moment back to say or do something that can change an outcome, unfortunately time can only move in one direction. It can not be stopped it can only move forward…So seize this moment and take the time to make it all matter.

THX,

SC

“Aint there something I can give you, in exchange as to what you’ve given to me?” Anita Bakers song was blasting in my ears as I did my classwork. “So whats your point?”  You all maybe saying. However, I’m listening to iHeart radio, and as I was writing on this blog page, the song came on again. ..EXACTLY! Strange, because you can’t rewind an iheart song. Therefore, I decide to erase all of that and follow exactly what that song was telling me. The best I got, giving you the best that I got. ..HAve you ever been in a relationship and honestly say you have given it the best that you had? Now this doesn’t have to be talking about to your significant other. How about to friends, family members, people on the street that you may pass by , and mainly GOD!  Can you answer yes? Sometimes the circumstances we are in doesn’t allow us to give what we wish we could to these people, and most won’t even acknowledge that you did your best. But did you GIVE THE BEST THAT YOU HAD? Honestly now I can say yes. No of course I can’t please everyone and I wish and even pray that everyone I was blessed to be in their lives will say I have never given up on whats important. The reason for this post is not to encourage you to go overboard and lose yourself in the process of giving to others, but its to make you understand that even when you fall short in someone elses eyes, you can know for yourself that you have given it your all. Love is endless, you can never say it too much, remind others how much you love them, and it is seeing all the good in people even in bad situations…LIVE like tomorrow is not promised, Laugh through the pain because it’s temporary, LOVE them the same today as you did yesterday and never EVER take it for granted…

What brings you happiness? What is one word that can describe what has entered your life and changed it so much???? Many would say when I have the home I want, financial security, or the love of their lives. I use to say all those things as well. Until, I found something more valuable that material things, money, and man (male or female) couldn’t compare to. You already think you know my answer huh? Some of you have guessed God. Good answer! But you’re wrong. Now before you go throwing holy oil on me or planning to throw me on an alter, think about this. When did he leave me? My God never forsakes me or leaves me. Even when I was in the midst of my sin he was there protecting and speaking to me, although I may have ignored the little voices that warns me of my wrong doing. Well what sin was I doing that I ignored the spirit? Anything that isn’t of God to me is a sin. Quick to anger, impure thoughts, or even a turn of the head to a person of need that may ask for some spare change. Come on now, you all have seen and done it. Though I do better now at giving those that need, even when they don’t ask because it could have been me down and out. About the impure thoughts, God knows I try to stay away from firemen, and men with English accents. 

Back to what has made me look back on my past failures and think of them as lessons, what sparks my soul and gives me my smile. What has given Lartrice her happiness back and what is that one word that is often said but not understood how importance it is to have? PEACE!!! And yes, with God there is peace. Once I said, “I give up, I don’t know what I am doing wrong, please take this and help me find me.” I was instantly released. I remember as I was sitting in my car in Atlanta, April 26, 2015. This was supposed to be my spa get-away, my me time. I had so much confusion, pain, frustration and I was tired. Everything that I was going through, all the mistakes I had made, disappointments from people, trying to maintain being a good mother, work, school and dealing with the death of someone that I couldn’t imagine life without…I was headed for someone’s psychiatric ward. How many of you know that when you are going through, asking “what else can go wrong,” only invites more spiritual warfare in your life. That one last straw that broke the camel’s back actually pushed me to my breakthrough. I have PEACE EVERYDAY! Of course I still have things going on, BUT GOD! I know that there is an instruction manual, and I have found the recipe, and I am not changing books. Find your PEACE. And when you find your peace, you’ll find forgiveness, hope and ultimately change! I’M NOT WHERE I NEED TO BE, BUT I AM NOT WHERE I WAS YESTERDAY. Much love and blessings from me to you.    

 

 

 

It has always been a part of me to be easy-going, fulfilled, and eventually submissive when I got older. It took practically 30 years for me to realize that I didn’t know the person in the mirror.  From the outside I smiled and people saw a happy carefree and loving person. But the question I asked myself was who was I? So many years I have been everything for everyone else and that was a part of me just being me. That was not only my situation for all those years, but for many of you also. Today I can stand in the mirror and smile. With a considerable amount of gray in my hair, I am in a joyous relationship with the person in the mirror. She is kind, loving, forgiving, spontaneous, but mostly God-fearing. Although total transformation hasn’t taken place yet, the cocoon I am in I am changing what matters the most. MY THOUGHTS! Your thoughts can dictate what mood you are in, and you can SPEAK love, life and prosperity in your life!!

I can’t speak for anyone else but myself and I was truly one that relied highly on someone else telling me what I should do next, my worth, and I never felt the love that I gave out. No, I never wanted the material things, but pure love and friendship that I gave out. Unfortunately, the ones I thought would always be there for me, or the ones I held dearest to my heart, disappointed me in ways that would break the average person. I can remember the moment where someone walked out of my life, erased me from their memory as if I was not a part of their lives for so many years, and all I could think of was “do you know what I have done to make you happy?” At that moment, I was free. Remember, I am blessed yet cursed to be a forgiving person… so I felt my burdens lifted and although the pain remained with me for a while, I found a way to let them go. It takes one step at a time. When something you have been doing for years seems to become a way of life for you to let go and you decide you deserve better.

Today, I have been blessed abundantly with more than I can imagine. I have more PEACE, JOY, and BETTER UNDERSTANDING of who I AM! One thing you have to do in this day and time is continue to pray for those that hurt, misuse and abuse you. Pray for their souls! Pray that they prosper, that they go back to school, and that they are the best mothers or fathers to their children! I am still a believer that if you ever loved someone you never stopped loving them when you part ways, but you love them enough to let them go so YOU can grow!  Before I close I want to tell you one thing that I still see happening that can slow your process of growth. DON’T allow ANYONE to tell you your YESTERDAY is how you are TODAY! Every day we can change, no matter our history, we can CHANGE daily for the better of ourselves!

 “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein

 

It’s been a while since I’ve had chance to reconnect with “my time.” Writing without being paid and just allowing the words to tumble out of the many thoughts that are going on in my head seems to have become a task that I can never get to these days. However, I am here now and just to give you some words of encouragement to lift your burdens with hope of a better you for today and days to come. So sit back and be ready to chat with me on these beautiful fall days that are coming so quickly.
Until than, Blessings…

If you look back and regret anyone or anything in your life you’ve done. .it’s a waste of time.

1. Instead of using regret try using your mental ability to think of the lessons learned.  If anyone bring up a bad part of my past, I smile and say. .”but nevertheless, It was an experience.” You carry around so much pain, hurt and confusion if you don’t learn how to accept temporarily failures and pain. Get up, dust yourself off and pray that you learn how to be a better person from it. However,  it took me quite a few years to learn this but I never forgot how to do one thing. .forgive others. The hardest part is forgiving yourself. I’ve treated others better than I have myself for so long, that it took me a while to accept the person I saw in the mirror as a person who deserved to be treated with the love she gave out!  Along the way, you’ll lose a few friends, maybe family members and the ones you thought was your Ying to your yang…it’s ok to let go. . ..but again we love and trust man/woman like they should be as forgiving and understanding as our father God! Only to be disappointed. .Do me a favor. Forgive!  Let Go!  Did they say they’ll always be there for you in that hard breaking moment, only a call away?  How could they deceive and abandon you? Oh,  I’m not feeling sorry for you, because just like you, I searched for these answers while I was stranded with my pain and confused heart. However, not much later. .it clicked in my head. Like a light bulb switching on. (Good bless my aunt who passed, she told me a while ago the light bulb wasn’t on yet..Auntie, it came on late. .but thank God it did) “Let him go Bebe, let her go Bebe. .it’s ok. ” Yes, I have shed many tears on people and disappointments. .but I now know that the seasons God has for us with each and every person we cone in contact with comes with a reason!  It’s OUR desire to try to keep them there. We would give our whole heart, body,possessions and souls to the ones we feel are worthy of us. Yet, we only receive temporary promises, or their words of I miss and love you, or their physical touch is not equal to the sacrifice you have given. ..so,  what am I saying? LIVE! LOVE!!FORGIVE! !! GIVE more of you to those who need you!  It’s a host of organizations, children that need love ..go love on those in elderly care!! Don’t waddle in yesterday pain,  today’s disappointments or the worry of tomorrow! Life has an expiration date on it that noone knows the shelf life. ..look in the mirror and tell yourself. .”I love you, I forgive you for wasting time wallowing in temporary passion and sorrow!”  Say in a louder voice. .” God if grant me one more day, I’ll live to be a service, and I give you those people that I am struggling to forgive,  I TRUST YOU,I LOVE YOU and I THANK YOU GOD for showing me what is important in this life! Now smile, and look at how much relief you feel. I’m not changing my smile, laugh,  or my giving heart for anyone!  While some saw me as weak or naive, someone else saw me as strong and trusting!  I have to thank God for sending a friend to remind me from time to time that it’s okay to be me,  im good at being that!  Be you, and don’t allow obstacles or anyone change what comes naturally in your heart. ..
2. Until next time. .Do some mirror talk 😉

When I finally took it upon myself to take people as they are and realize they should do the same for me, it instantly became a struggle. And yes,  I backslide a little and texted or called my explanation. Don’t do that!  People KNOW when they are taking you for granted,  whether or not they apologize for it is on them. But do not be afraid to ask for respect, kindness and the energy or love you give out! No relationship should be bought, or one sided. Again, don’t wait for an apology, just keep living. Eventually in life karma will show them a picture of what you deserved and just how they are on the short stick of receiving just what you needed.. God knows I have loved and still love who I thought was my heaven sent(SC) and. .but in life we sometimes must let go and allow destiny to run its courses…but stand by your character and you’ll never regret it. ..

Now be blessed until next time. .

I have been doing a few freelance jobs on the side awaiting the outcome of my book when I received a request for poetry. Those that know me know this is how my love for writing started out and I am excited another opportunity has presented itself. In my way of thinking, I know that poetry can spark a memory or two. It can also give you a way to release the feelings inside and do things that words always have proven to do. Remove you. When ever the need to get away, take a walk with a pen in your hand, walk barefoot in the sand..with your shades on,  blocking all distractions from your sight. It’s always something to write. .

Everyday won’t be a day that you wake up and have a smile on your face. As with me, everyone that see me, may see a smile and a joyful tone. Am I just the opposite? Sometimes. But that’s temporarily. When I get up some days are reminders of yesterday, or I may remember a loved one that is no longer with me and I instantly become sadden. Frankly, it won’t last long with me because I’ve learned that with life, everything and everyone is temporary. NO!! DON’T feel bad, look at it just the opposite, that we only have small moments and pleasures in this life to enjoy one another! Instantly I smile. I thank GOD that I have one more day to right my wrongs, to forgive someone, or ask them for forgiveness. See, Frankly everything don’t have to be in black and white. We have to paint our skies blue, acknowledge that we have love surrounding us, we just have to not look for the negative…

Until next time smile and change someones world.